check in if you’re a parent & have a child ‘on punishment.’ lol what the hell. just what is this ‘punishment? most common: no tv
2nd most common punishment: no electronics. 3rd: reading & writing. yep. this is how bad it is….reading & writing are used as punishments
many of you parents still try the: ‘i will not _______’ x number of times. oh boy did we find a way to organize those lol. we’d write the words by rows: i, i, i, i, ….will, will, will…lol. what you got for us? 50 times? 100 times? 250? i once had to write a statement 500 times, i believe. oh boy. the pages lol
but no..it’s terrible that we punish our kids with reading & writing. no wonder they have an aversion to it. do not use reading as punishment!
dad got hip to me quick. punishment for me was the opposite: taking away my books and sources of information lol. i longed for a book or something to read while standing in the corner all those bloody hours
thing is, if you take away all electronics there’s nothing left for the kid to do but read. and hey, why not make them write about they read. practice your reading and writing skills young ‘un cause the fun stuff is restricted.
it’s the duration of the punishment though. anything over a week is excessive. really. and you knucklehead kids better understand that whatever you did to deserve punishment is wrong and learn quickly & absolutely not to do again!! that’s prolly why the punishment was so severe in the first place.
you did something again…something you already got punished for lol. now we got to take it to the max. you know you done fucked up now so we’re taking everything away from you. the hell did you do it again?? lol you got punished once for it and still did it again. i bet it was something stupid too. you tweens and teens think you’re so smart but you forget that we were you, we made you, and we are you lol.
don’t get carried away with punishments though. i know it’s hard. you’re infuriated by the offense we committed but never insult or strike a tween/teen. it only breeds hate. best thing to do is get away from each other. send your child to the room while you compose yourself. try to let the anger subside before you think of the punishment you’ll dish out. thank god clair huxtable showed us that example lol.
do not punish a teen/tween immediately and while you’re angry. take some time to reflect and examine what they did and why. let your anger subside before you punish. think about the lesson you want to teach them and come up with a reasonable consequence. lol and remember it was once you getting punished and how you felt 
so punishment or restriction or grounding or whatever you call it needs to be regulated lol. some of you are excessive. way excessive. completely ignore the kid when he’s being punished. or you lack self control and strike a kid. save that for the very, very, very bad incident lol. and never on or near the face: do not strike a child in the face! omg…never, never, never. that is the most humiliating thing ever. it stays with us. if you can look your child in the eye while striking them in the face you’ve lost control. you need to get far away from each other…
i’m rambling but the thing is this….punishment is necessary so that young people learn that there are consequences for wrong decisions. but there is no need to be brutal. taking away privileges is fine, but make sure reading & writing are encouragement and not punishment.
had i known….omg. the revolting awakening of my same sex attraction. the crush on a best friend and nothing was ever the same again. it was 1985 and i was turning 13.
